How to treat your wife in Islam ? Tips for a better Muslim husband and Muslim wife relationship
How to treat your wife in islam quotes? Although many Muslim Husband and Wife relationships may right now be in failing and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if they are sincere in their desire to reconcile thier husband wife relationship. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.
Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship
Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this husband wife relationship which Allah has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.
Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: ‘. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . ” (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation).
1. Do not be a Tyrant
Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives” (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi). In the khutba hajjatul wida, Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) clearly stated how men should treat their wives.
2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process
Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.
3. Never be Abusive
Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: ‘How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?”
4. Be Careful of Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.
5. Show Affection
Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.
5. Be Your Spouse’s Friend
Show interest in your mate’s life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other’s lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class to better their husband wife relationship.
6. Show Appreciation
Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband.” (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don’t take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.
7. Work Together in the House
The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn’t feel that they are.
8. Communication is Important
Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.
9. Forget Past Problems
Don’t bring up past problems once they have been solved.
10. Live Simply
Don’t be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The ‘rizq” is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.
11. Give Your Spouse Time Alone
If your mate doesn’t want to be with you all the time, it doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don’t make them feel that they are committing a sin.
12. Admit Your Mistakes
When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.
13. Physical Relationship is Important
Be available to your mate sexually, and don’t let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet was reported to have said: ‘It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand.”
14. Have Meals Together
Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet did not complain about food that was put before him.
15. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics
Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn’t like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate’s physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.
Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times — when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.
Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. This is how to treat your wife in islam.
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Wife wants to leave
Mohammed Salman JH 11/08/2022 PERMALINK
My wife wants to leave me since I am jobless and not earning anything right now. I left the job in Qatar to spend some time with my wife. But things are all changed when I returned back to India. What should I do? What are the references in Islam for this kind of treatment by my wife? Please help
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sm 10/05/2022 PERMALINK
salams
what about when your husbands ages very quickly and forgets to be your friend and says i wont be what i was years ago ( when we got married) hes a good father but just has forgotten im stil a girl and hes friend who needs to reminded he can be a friend aswell as a husband and grow together..
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Behavior
Shari Thimbrell 09/14/2022 PERMALINK
Hi am been married for 11 years am not perfect no one is but I try my very best many time to show my husband love , kindness,gentle and I do show him love but he stop showing it to me some time any little I do make he upset . I really don’t know sometime I do think about walking away but then I look on my children.but emotional am breaken mentally am tried for it.
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What abt your husband
Ahaikh 07/23/2022 PERMALINK
What abt your husband disrespects your parents and in returns ask you to respect his parents..for years I never done such lke things only due to my husband so that he may treat my parents as he does for his ..in this situation wt can a wife do..
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But wat if ur husband put his
Anonymous 01/18/2022 PERMALINK
But wat if ur husband put his familys needs before his wifes…is that humanity or wat.
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Wife not teaching Quran to the children
Shah kamran 11/26/2021 PERMALINK
What shall I do if my wife is not inculcating islamic values, quranic teachings and love n fear of Allah and akhira ? Shall I divorce her ?
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do it yourself. it’s not only
anonymous 08/20/2022 PERMALINK
do it yourself. it’s not only her responsibility. spend more time with your kids and take responsibility for teaching them also. then maybe she will see what you’re doing and join in it.
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be kind good sir
hey 08/16/2022 PERMALINK
just have a normal conversation with her wdym divorce her just like that. also, depending on your kid’s age you should wait a bit before explaining them that kind of thing,believe it or not but telling a kid who’s less than 8yo that they’ll burn in hell forever if they don’t respect their parents isn’t the best for the mental health for a kid.
im just a random internet person tho,but I’d suggest you to teach your kids for now about the loving,caring,forgiving, rightful Allah who protects him from hardship and gave him such an amazing family,teaching his young mind about fearing Allah as if he didn’t love him will just make the kid go out of the path of islam cause hey, everything bad that happens to me is Allah’s fault right? just be gentle with kids, they’re a beautiful blessing.
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The most disliked act in the
Annanomous 07/29/2022 PERMALINK
The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah is divorce.
Speak to your wife about how important it is to instill Islamic values in children and maybe sign her up for Islamic classes so she can learn and understand islam.
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The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah
Azher Hossain 09/05/2022 PERMALINK
brother I think you meant to the withholder of wealth (as this is the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah (s.w.t), also divorce is not the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah
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How to treat your wife in Islam ? Tips for a better Muslim husband and Muslim wife relationship
How to treat your wife in islam quotes? Although many Muslim Husband and Wife relationships may right now be in failing and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if they are sincere in their desire to reconcile thier husband wife relationship. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.
Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship
Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this husband wife relationship which Allah has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.
Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: ‘. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . ” (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation).
1. Do not be a Tyrant
Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives” (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi). In the khutba hajjatul wida, Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) clearly stated how men should treat their wives.
2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process
Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.
3. Never be Abusive
Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: ‘How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?”
4. Be Careful of Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.
5. Show Affection
Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.
5. Be Your Spouse’s Friend
Show interest in your mate’s life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other’s lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class to better their husband wife relationship.
6. Show Appreciation
Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband.” (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don’t take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.
7. Work Together in the House
The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn’t feel that they are.
8. Communication is Important
Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.
9. Forget Past Problems
Don’t bring up past problems once they have been solved.
10. Live Simply
Don’t be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The ‘rizq” is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.
11. Give Your Spouse Time Alone
If your mate doesn’t want to be with you all the time, it doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don’t make them feel that they are committing a sin.
12. Admit Your Mistakes
When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.
13. Physical Relationship is Important
Be available to your mate sexually, and don’t let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet was reported to have said: ‘It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand.”
14. Have Meals Together
Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet did not complain about food that was put before him.
15. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics
Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn’t like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate’s physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.
Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times — when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.
Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. This is how to treat your wife in islam.
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Wife wants to leave
Mohammed Salman JH 11/08/2022 PERMALINK
My wife wants to leave me since I am jobless and not earning anything right now. I left the job in Qatar to spend some time with my wife. But things are all changed when I returned back to India. What should I do? What are the references in Islam for this kind of treatment by my wife? Please help
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sm 10/05/2022 PERMALINK
salams
what about when your husbands ages very quickly and forgets to be your friend and says i wont be what i was years ago ( when we got married) hes a good father but just has forgotten im stil a girl and hes friend who needs to reminded he can be a friend aswell as a husband and grow together..
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Shari Thimbrell 09/14/2022 PERMALINK
Hi am been married for 11 years am not perfect no one is but I try my very best many time to show my husband love , kindness,gentle and I do show him love but he stop showing it to me some time any little I do make he upset . I really don’t know sometime I do think about walking away but then I look on my children.but emotional am breaken mentally am tried for it.
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What abt your husband
Ahaikh 07/23/2022 PERMALINK
What abt your husband disrespects your parents and in returns ask you to respect his parents..for years I never done such lke things only due to my husband so that he may treat my parents as he does for his ..in this situation wt can a wife do..
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But wat if ur husband put his
Anonymous 01/18/2022 PERMALINK
But wat if ur husband put his familys needs before his wifes…is that humanity or wat.
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Wife not teaching Quran to the children
Shah kamran 11/26/2021 PERMALINK
What shall I do if my wife is not inculcating islamic values, quranic teachings and love n fear of Allah and akhira ? Shall I divorce her ?
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do it yourself. it’s not only
anonymous 08/20/2022 PERMALINK
do it yourself. it’s not only her responsibility. spend more time with your kids and take responsibility for teaching them also. then maybe she will see what you’re doing and join in it.
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be kind good sir
hey 08/16/2022 PERMALINK
just have a normal conversation with her wdym divorce her just like that. also, depending on your kid’s age you should wait a bit before explaining them that kind of thing,believe it or not but telling a kid who’s less than 8yo that they’ll burn in hell forever if they don’t respect their parents isn’t the best for the mental health for a kid.
im just a random internet person tho,but I’d suggest you to teach your kids for now about the loving,caring,forgiving, rightful Allah who protects him from hardship and gave him such an amazing family,teaching his young mind about fearing Allah as if he didn’t love him will just make the kid go out of the path of islam cause hey, everything bad that happens to me is Allah’s fault right? just be gentle with kids, they’re a beautiful blessing.
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The most disliked act in the
Annanomous 07/29/2022 PERMALINK
The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah is divorce.
Speak to your wife about how important it is to instill Islamic values in children and maybe sign her up for Islamic classes so she can learn and understand islam.
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The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah
Azher Hossain 09/05/2022 PERMALINK
brother I think you meant to the withholder of wealth (as this is the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah (s.w.t), also divorce is not the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah
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Jump to navigation Give Conflict & Divorce How to treat your wife in Islam ? Tips for a better Muslim husband and Muslim wife relationship Ibrahim Bowers How to treat your wife in islam quotes? Although many Muslim Husband and Wife relationships may right now be in failing and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if they are sincere in their desire to reconcile thier husband wife relationship. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage. Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family. Marriage In The Eyes of Allah It is very sad that this husband wife relationship which Allah has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be. Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: ‘. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . ” (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation). 1. Do not be a Tyrant Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives” (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi). In the khutba hajjatul wida, Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) clearly stated how men should treat their wives. 2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them. 3. Never be Abusive Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: ‘How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?” 4. Be Careful of Your Words Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation. 5. Show Affection Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving. 5. Be Your Spouse’s Friend Show interest in your mate’s life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other’s lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class to better their husband wife relationship. 6. Show Appreciation Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband.” (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don’t take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated. 7. Work Together in the House The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn’t feel that they are. 8. Communication is Important Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs. 9. Forget Past Problems Don’t bring up past problems once they have been solved. 10. Live Simply Don’t be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The ‘rizq” is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life. 11. Give Your Spouse Time Alone If your mate doesn’t want to be with you all the time, it doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don’t make them feel that they are committing a sin. 12. Admit Your Mistakes When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other. 13. Physical Relationship is Important Be available to your mate sexually, and don’t let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet was reported to have said: ‘It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand.” 14. Have Meals Together Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet did not complain about food that was put before him. 15. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn’t like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate’s physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse. Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times — when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them. Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. This is how to treat your wife in islam. Add new comment Tags husband wife relationship spouse husband wife marriage love mercy conflict divorce Comments Wife wants to leave Mohammed Salman JH 11/08/2022 PERMALINK My wife wants to leave me since I am jobless and not earning anything right now. I left the job in Qatar to spend some time with my wife. But things are all changed when I returned back to India. What should I do? What are the references in Islam for this kind of treatment by my wife? Please help Location Bangalore reply husband sm 10/05/2022 PERMALINK salams what about when your husbands ages very quickly and forgets to be your friend and says i wont be what i was years ago ( when we got married) hes a good father but just has forgotten im stil a girl and hes friend who needs to reminded he can be a friend aswell as a husband and grow together.. Location usa reply Behavior Shari Thimbrell 09/14/2022 PERMALINK Hi am been married for 11 years am not perfect no one is but I try my very best many time to show my husband love , kindness,gentle and I do show him love but he stop showing it to me some time any little I do make he upset . I really don’t know sometime I do think about walking away but then I look on my children.but emotional am breaken mentally am tried for it. Location Belize reply What abt your husband Ahaikh 07/23/2022 PERMALINK What abt your husband disrespects your parents and in returns ask you to respect his parents..for years I never done such lke things only due to my husband so that he may treat my parents as he does for his ..in this situation wt can a wife do.. reply But wat if ur husband put his Anonymous 01/18/2022 PERMALINK But wat if ur husband put his familys needs before his wifes…is that humanity or wat. reply Wife not teaching Quran to the children Shah kamran 11/26/2021 PERMALINK What shall I do if my wife is not inculcating islamic values, quranic teachings and love n fear of Allah and akhira ? Shall I divorce her ? Location UAe reply do it yourself. it’s not only anonymous 08/20/2022 PERMALINK do it yourself. it’s not only her responsibility. spend more time with your kids and take responsibility for teaching them also. then maybe she will see what you’re doing and join in it. Location usa reply be kind good sir hey 08/16/2022 PERMALINK just have a normal conversation with her wdym divorce her just like that. also, depending on your kid’s age you should wait a bit before explaining them that kind of thing,believe it or not but telling a kid who’s less than 8yo that they’ll burn in hell forever if they don’t respect their parents isn’t the best for the mental health for a kid. im just a random internet person tho,but I’d suggest you to teach your kids for now about the loving,caring,forgiving, rightful Allah who protects him from hardship and gave him such an amazing family,teaching his young mind about fearing Allah as if he didn’t love him will just make the kid go out of the path of islam cause hey, everything bad that happens to me is Allah’s fault right? just be gentle with kids, they’re a beautiful blessing. reply The most disliked act in the Annanomous 07/29/2022 PERMALINK The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah is divorce. Speak to your wife about how important it is to instill Islamic values in children and maybe sign her up for Islamic classes so she can learn and understand islam. Location England reply The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah Azher Hossain 09/05/2022 PERMALINK brother I think you meant to the withholder of wealth (as this is the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah (s.w.t), also divorce is not the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah Location Canada reply Pages 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 … next › last » Add new comment Your name Location Subject Comment * ◢ Switch to plain text editor Tue, December 27, 2022 3 Jumada al-Ukhra 1444 AH What’s Hot at SoundVision.com? 9/11 activism african american america anxiety black history month celebrations children christians civil rights community conflict cuisine dawa Dawud Wharnsby death discrimination domestic violence dua education eid election entertainment extremism family fasting food freedom giving goals hajj halal halal meat haram hate crimes haya health help hijab husband imam interfaith islam islamic events islamophobia justice khutba manners marriage masjid media money muslim muslim leaders muslim parenting muslims in america muslims in politics muslim women muslim world muslim youth newsletter parenting parents peace personal development plan planning political participation poor prayer prophet muhammad public school quran racism ramadan recipe religious freedom remembrance school sex social services sound vision spirituality spouse statistics students summer teacher teens terrorism travel tv unity violence vote war wedding wife youth zikr More Authors Sound Vision Staff Writer Samana Siddiqui Abdul Malik Mujahid Wendy Díaz Zahirah Lynn Eppard Mahasin D. 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Assalam alaikum rahmatullahi barakatuhu Please pray for my father my father is admitted in hospital (heart attack)… Asim was her 1st husband and ghazzayah was 2nd Thank you for all these information about the holy quran and its surah names number as this helped my in my online… I found this article useful guide to know more about voluntary fasting.Shukran Listen to Radio Islam Shows About Sound Vision Adam’s World Videos About Us Our Mission Cultivate harmony among neighbors through art, media, strategic communication, and education. Our Vision The vision of Sound Vision is to establish peace, justice, fairness, and equity in the world. Follow us on social media Our Programs It airs on Galaxy 19 Satellite, Amazon FireTV, Roku, Apple TV and social media. The network emerged from the daily show Radio Islam, which aired on WCEV 1450 AM in Chicago for 20 years. 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Although many Muslim Husband and Wife relationships may right now be in failing and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if they are sincere in their desire to reconcile thier husband wife relationship. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage. Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family. Marriage In The Eyes of Allah It is very sad that this husband wife relationship which Allah has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be. Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: ‘. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . ” (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation). 1. Do not be a Tyrant Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives” (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi). In the khutba hajjatul wida, Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) clearly stated how men should treat their wives. 2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them. 3. Never be Abusive Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: ‘How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?” 4. Be Careful of Your Words Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation. 5. Show Affection Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving. 5. Be Your Spouse’s Friend Show interest in your mate’s life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other’s lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class to better their husband wife relationship. 6. Show Appreciation Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband.” (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don’t take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated. 7. Work Together in the House The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn’t feel that they are. 8. Communication is Important Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs. 9. Forget Past Problems Don’t bring up past problems once they have been solved. 10. Live Simply Don’t be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The ‘rizq” is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life. 11. Give Your Spouse Time Alone If your mate doesn’t want to be with you all the time, it doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don’t make them feel that they are committing a sin. 12. Admit Your Mistakes When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other. 13. Physical Relationship is Important Be available to your mate sexually, and don’t let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet was reported to have said: ‘It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand.” 14. Have Meals Together Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet did not complain about food that was put before him. 15. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn’t like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate’s physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse. Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times — when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them. Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. This is how to treat your wife in islam. Add new comment Tags husband wife relationship spouse husband wife marriage love mercy conflict divorce Comments Wife wants to leave Mohammed Salman JH 11/08/2022 PERMALINK My wife wants to leave me since I am jobless and not earning anything right now. I left the job in Qatar to spend some time with my wife. But things are all changed when I returned back to India. What should I do? What are the references in Islam for this kind of treatment by my wife? Please help Location Bangalore reply husband sm 10/05/2022 PERMALINK salams what about when your husbands ages very quickly and forgets to be your friend and says i wont be what i was years ago ( when we got married) hes a good father but just has forgotten im stil a girl and hes friend who needs to reminded he can be a friend aswell as a husband and grow together.. Location usa reply Behavior Shari Thimbrell 09/14/2022 PERMALINK Hi am been married for 11 years am not perfect no one is but I try my very best many time to show my husband love , kindness,gentle and I do show him love but he stop showing it to me some time any little I do make he upset . I really don’t know sometime I do think about walking away but then I look on my children.but emotional am breaken mentally am tried for it. Location Belize reply What abt your husband Ahaikh 07/23/2022 PERMALINK What abt your husband disrespects your parents and in returns ask you to respect his parents..for years I never done such lke things only due to my husband so that he may treat my parents as he does for his ..in this situation wt can a wife do.. reply But wat if ur husband put his Anonymous 01/18/2022 PERMALINK But wat if ur husband put his familys needs before his wifes…is that humanity or wat. reply Wife not teaching Quran to the children Shah kamran 11/26/2021 PERMALINK What shall I do if my wife is not inculcating islamic values, quranic teachings and love n fear of Allah and akhira ? Shall I divorce her ? Location UAe reply do it yourself. it’s not only anonymous 08/20/2022 PERMALINK do it yourself. it’s not only her responsibility. spend more time with your kids and take responsibility for teaching them also. then maybe she will see what you’re doing and join in it. Location usa reply be kind good sir hey 08/16/2022 PERMALINK just have a normal conversation with her wdym divorce her just like that. also, depending on your kid’s age you should wait a bit before explaining them that kind of thing,believe it or not but telling a kid who’s less than 8yo that they’ll burn in hell forever if they don’t respect their parents isn’t the best for the mental health for a kid. im just a random internet person tho,but I’d suggest you to teach your kids for now about the loving,caring,forgiving, rightful Allah who protects him from hardship and gave him such an amazing family,teaching his young mind about fearing Allah as if he didn’t love him will just make the kid go out of the path of islam cause hey, everything bad that happens to me is Allah’s fault right? just be gentle with kids, they’re a beautiful blessing. reply The most disliked act in the Annanomous 07/29/2022 PERMALINK The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah is divorce. Speak to your wife about how important it is to instill Islamic values in children and maybe sign her up for Islamic classes so she can learn and understand islam. Location England reply The most disliked act in the eyes of Allah Azher Hossain 09/05/2022 PERMALINK brother I think you meant to the withholder of wealth (as this is the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah (s.w.t), also divorce is not the most disliked act in the eyes of Allah Location Canada reply Pages 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 … next › last » Add new comment Your name Location Subject Comment * ◢ Switch to plain text editor Tue, December 27, 2022 3 Jumada al-Ukhra 1444 AH What’s Hot at SoundVision.com? 9/11 activism african american america anxiety black history month celebrations children christians civil rights community conflict cuisine dawa Dawud Wharnsby death discrimination domestic violence dua education eid election entertainment extremism family fasting food freedom giving goals hajj halal halal meat haram hate crimes haya health help hijab husband imam interfaith islam islamic events islamophobia justice khutba manners marriage masjid media money muslim muslim leaders muslim parenting muslims in america muslims in politics muslim women muslim world muslim youth newsletter parenting parents peace personal development plan planning political participation poor prayer prophet muhammad public school quran racism ramadan recipe religious freedom remembrance school sex social services sound vision spirituality spouse statistics students summer teacher teens terrorism travel tv unity violence vote war wedding wife youth zikr More Authors Sound Vision Staff Writer Samana Siddiqui Abdul Malik Mujahid Wendy Díaz Zahirah Lynn Eppard Mahasin D. Shamsid-Deen Umm Ahmed more Books online A Handbook of Umra & Hajj A Muslim’s Guide to Life at School Diary of a Haji: 21 Days for the Holy Lands of Makkah and Madinah Gender Equity in Islam: Basic Principles The Life of Muhammad Women in Islam and Muslim Society A Handbook of Muslim Burials Newsletter Sign Up and Stay Connected! Recent articles Imaging Jesus As A Prophet And Why That’s Important The Islamic Lessons and Mindset of Gifting Converts Coping with Christmas 10 Great Ways to Enjoy your Winter Break Teaching Muslim Children about Christmas Muslim Year In Review 2022 Lazy Tongues and Language Deficits more @SoundVisionUSA Recent comments These days, lots of products include carmine inside them which are from insects. Assalam alaikum rahmatullahi barakatuhu Please pray for my father my father is admitted in hospital (heart attack)… Asim was her 1st husband and ghazzayah was 2nd Thank you for all these information about the holy quran and its surah names number as this helped my in my online… I found this article useful guide to know more about voluntary fasting.Shukran Listen to Radio Islam Shows About Sound Vision Adam’s World Videos About Us Our Mission Cultivate harmony among neighbors through art, media, strategic communication, and education. Our Vision The vision of Sound Vision is to establish peace, justice, fairness, and equity in the world. Follow us on social media Our Programs It airs on Galaxy 19 Satellite, Amazon FireTV, Roku, Apple TV and social media. The network emerged from the daily show Radio Islam, which aired on WCEV 1450 AM in Chicago for 20 years. 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